Change is one of those crazy inevitables that everyone has to deal with. No matter how hard you try you cannot run from the simple fact that every day life is changing,people are changing,circumstances are changing. Most would advise you go with the ebb and flow of life. You ride it out, you be a healthy person, and change with what's happening.
But change can also be devastating. Losing a loved one, moving away, or leaving a relationship behind are all crazy things that really affect a person. Those things take time and strength to recover from. I know the smaller changes most people don't worry about. Like, switching classes this upcoming semester. Part of me is jumping for joy to be away from the teachers I've had to cope with. Another part of me knows there will be people I won't see. It's kind of like a snowball effect when you don't see people you love.I've moved only twice in my life and each time it's been hard. I've had best friend's who've moved away from me as well. There is heartbreak when your best friend tries to tell you, "Don't worry-we'll stay close." and all I could do was smile sadly and hug them tight. I was always thinking that they didn't live in my reality, where if effort is not made and friendships aren't allowed to grow naturally, they deteriorate and die.After a couple times you get in touch with the truth of how things happen. A simple change of schedule, a change of if-I-get-to-see-them-today, can mean the end of a growing friendship or the start of the end for one held close by only a few common interests.
My longest lasting friendships have stayed because of church,or school, and only one because we put the effort in to make sure we know what's going on with one another and that our love and friendship is expressed.
I do not fear change in itself. Because the fear of change is just the fear of the unknown. I do fear the consequences of change, for that is the days we live in.
Hope you're changes are for the best. -Mikaella